First off, I need to give a BIG, BIG thank you to Virginia for letting me take over her blog today…she really doesn’t know what’s she gotten herself into!
Anyways, I think Virginia and I are long lost sisters. Case in point: I pretty much bought everything she listed on her Instagram sale because it was totally up my alley. Her taste in fabrics and love for all things vintage is totally my language. We could do some serious antiquing and fabric shopping, I just know it!
Now, back to the reason I’m here – a guest post! My name is Lena, and I blog over at Life with LeeLee and B…plus Annie Louise! I’ve been married to my handsome hubby, B, for over 5 years. We have a precious and wild toddler, Annie Louise, who keeps our schedule and our hearts FULL. My blog is just a view into our crazy beautiful life…I hope you’ll stop by and read along!
It’s time to get real, y’all. I have a big confession, like huge.
I’m nothing like the mama I thought I was going to be before I actually had a child.
There, I said it. I feel better already!
You see, before I gave birth to that adorable 9 pound, 2 ounces, head full of dark hair baby, I had an idea in my head of what kind of mama I was going to be to our Annie Louise.
And today? I’m nothing like her.
Here are a few “rules” I had pre-Annie Louise:
- I will not allow my kids to snack or eat in the car.
- My kids will only eat the most nutritious snacks and meals.
- I will not have a room totally devoted to housing toys (i.e., a playroom).
- I will never, ever, ever have a television or dvd player in my car.
- My daughter will not be obsessed with princesses, more importantly, Disney princesses.
- My kids will NEVER sleep in the bed with me. End of story.
There you have it. Do you think less of me as a mama? Probably not, or at least I hope not.
That’s the thing with being a mama – we have this idea of what we want to be. This perfectly ironed and pressed, tied up with a bow dream. But then this wonderful little being comes into our lives, and everything changes.
So what if it looks like a giant bag of goldfish exploded in my car? Does it bother you that I turned our only spare bedroom into an adorable and whimsical room to house all the toys? Who cares that getting a full night’s sleep means sometimes my toddler sleeps in the bed with me? Sure, my pantry is full of animal crackers and cookies and chips. And yes, I’m pretty sure we watch “Beauty and the Beast” every time we are in the car.
Does that make me a failure? I pray it doesn’t!
Instead of thinking of myself as a disappointment because the way I parent isn’t exactly how I dreamt it would be, I’m going to think of all the fun and the many, many memories that have come from breaking my own rules!
So, to all my mamas out there, don’t beat yourself up. Celebrate each and every one of your milestones and successes…you deserve it!