I am nervously writing this post thinking that some of you will take this to heart and think I’m talking about me. I can honestly say that God is healing my ache and I am more blessed than ever seeing friendships bloom and overwhelmed by support. This is something I feel like I am supposed to write for those who have a quiet voice.
I’ve been praying and thinking about a lot of things lately. Conversations with my Mom about her cancer treatments wrapping up, friends heading back to work full time, moving past a miscarriage, and more. It seems that whatever our “rock your world” experience may be, good or bad, it’s difficult to move on. (I don’t like that phrase….I think moving forward is a better way to say it. Moving on makes me feel like you are supposed to drop things and forget them.)
Whether we like it or not things happen and leave an imprint in our lives. It’s what we do with these imprints that becomes the challenge as we live each day. We can choose to cling to bitterness and envy or open our hearts to Jesus’ healing.
It seems that when we are in the middle of a big moment in our lives there are often a few people around to support. As the days and weeks pass, it’s assumed that we’re fine. Life moves faster than ever and people forget. There’s a place of expectation for ourselves to “suck it up” and realize that everyone has to deal with things. An expectation to jump forward and forget the past. We may even put unrealistic expectations on others to help us heal. Or maybe the one we’re trying to lean on is also the one that 2o others are leaning on as well.
Moving past a life-changing experience takes time, patience and prayer. It’s something that only God can truly heal.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. ~ Psalm 147:3
My challenge for you this week is to:
- Think of those people that may have lost a loved one 6 months ago and send them a card. Chances are they’re still grieving in one way or another and would appreciate knowing they’re in your thoughts and prayers. When the cards and meals stop, the heart does not.
- Pick up the phone 4 weeks after the birth of a baby and check in on the momma. See how she’s handling the sleepless nights.
- Find the college student that went on a mission trip 6 months ago and ask how their life has changed. Ask how they are coping with being back “home.”
If you’re hurting – lean on God. If you don’t know what that means or looks like, ask. Be honest with someone in your life, ask for help.
I’m just afraid I’ve been guilty of putting a timeline on things and return to my life, forgetting the struggles others may be in. Through my recent pain I’ve been awakened to so many hurting in my small circle. God is the ultimate Healer and Counselor, and we are called to love one another. What does that look like for you right now? How do we share our lives with others and help them heal with God?